Aging Parents / Adult Sibling Challenges

• Who controls it? 

• Mom or Dad don't want to give up control, but there are problems. 

• Mom and Dad have given over financial reins to one adult child and there is possible distrust among other siblings.

• Mom and Dad want to remain in their home.

• Both of them want to continue to drive independently.

• Children have safety concerns. How can these competing interests be addressed in a way that preserves  relationships.

• Family dynamics stand in the way of following through with an attorney's advice.

• Family conflict is leading towards a guardianship proceeding.

• There is conflict between the adult child with Power of Attorney over finances and the sibling who manages their care. 

• Geographic and economic differences are causing problems regarding roles, responsibilities and what's fair.

• One sibling has received more financial support.

• Another sibling has borne unequal caregiving costs or responsibilities.

• Communication friction; different communication styles and personal needs.

• Conflict over decision-making; each person's role and responsibility?  

• Should family home be sold? 

• If so, how should the proceeds be divided? 

• Inheritance disputes: Who gets what? Who decides?

• With more young adults living at home now than at any other period since the Great Depression, there are plenty of issues to consider.

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• Examples include splitting costs, privacy, and people's expectations. 

• With Covid, many families need to make significant adjustments to how they live, work, and visit. New circumstances inevitably raise issues and conflict.  

• Examples include concerns about how to visit safely, adjusting to greater physical separation, needing to consolidate expenses and adjusting to new roles and responsibilities.